(IDK why it's not shortened to EFCT.)

Huge effect size on marital satisfaction. LW user MNoetel says the best book is Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson.

• accessibility: can I reach you?
• responsiveness: can I rely on you to respond to me?
• engagement: do I know you will value me and stay close?

Root problem: to judge how likely something is, we sub in a judgment about representativeness, i.e. characteristicness.

See how this looks in two different failure modes:

• Availability heuristic: To judge the actual rates of homicide, we trust in how typical it feels to encounter reports of homicide.
• Conjunction fallacy: To judge the likelihood of "Poland is invaded followed by a breakdown of relations with the Soviet Union", we trust in how typical the sequence of events feels.

While the standard antidote to the conjunction fallacy is to learn to react to details as additional burdens, and there are multiple band-aids for the Availability heuristic, maybe we can also get to the root of the problem.

Which is…that our inner simulator loves to compare against 'typicality clusters'? And it's easy to see why if you think of it as implementing a neural net: light up more nodes, stronger sense of recognition.

Can we get it to habitually wire up a different sort of neural net?

See picture here: www.greaterwrong.com/posts/yA4gF5KrboK2m2Xu7/how-an-algorithm-feels-from-inside

Not sure where I'm going with that.

Actually that's about words. The dangling node doesn't matter for this.

What we need is a… companion node tied to every node, working as a kind of gatekeeper so the node doesn't light up? Trained to be sensitive to the exact statement it hears, i.e. it knows A influences B doesn't mean B influences A.

<2024-Mar-25> Representativeness heuristic! That's the name for this thing.

#adhd

What is task constipation?

Example. I promise a friend to post an ad on Tradera by lunchtime. Then I spend a few hours on other things. The promised task applies pressure in the back of my head that I'm studiously ignoring.

In the meantime, if my friend texts me, I can't respond or even read the text because I would prefer to have done that task I promised first. So I'm unresponsive and emotionally unavailable.

Then I finally do the task. Freshly clear of "task constipation", I'm free to flood my friend with responses, though they may be much too late to be appreciated.

#tech

So there you go, it can be done: alexandersandberg.github.io/theme-switcher/unlimited.html

BUT! Limitations he didn't mention:

• You must place the theme selector buttons at the top of the page—above everything else.
  • You can also place them at the bottom by exploiting flex-direction: column-reverse. However, you do that and the theme buttons will be stacked vertically. Until Firefox implements the CSS pseudo-class :has(), you don't get to put them inside a footer div to change the flex-layout.
    • Once Firefox does, it'll also be possible to put them in a sidebar. Mind that the sidebar could not itself be themed, so it's not as great as it seems
• You will still need Javascript to persist the theme choice across different pages. So unless it's a single-page app, not worth bothering.